Everyday Traumas

Getting a shot hurts

Getting a shot hurts (Photo credit: hubertk)

Trauma means different things to different people, explains Carrey Atkinson in the final episode of Live the Life. Carrey, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and I talk about how traumatic experiences effect a child’s brain, and how sometimes, everyday events that don’t seem scary or traumatic to adults can traumatic responses in young children. We also talk about ways parents can help process every day events so they don’t traumatize our children.

Live the Life with Dennis R. Eames
Everyday Traumas
Guest: Carrey Atkinson
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Carrey Atkinson, Licensed Professional Counselor
Alaska Center for Natural Medicine
907-452-3600


Dennis Eames
Marriage and Family Therapist
Alaska Center for Natural Medicine
livethelifealaska@gmail.com
452-3600

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Pursuit of The Call, part 2

mellingerJason Mellinger is back again this week for part 2 of our conversation.
This week we talk about the pursuit of excellence, and what that looks like doing mechanical maintenance in the jungle, as we define perfect as doing the best you can with the resources and time you have at that moment.

After last weeks show, Jason’s father in law posted on the Live the Life Facebook page that even he had learned a few things on the show. Tune in this week and you could learn a few new things as well. (also check out the re-blog of an article by Jason about a recent trip to Indonesia at bottom of this post)

Live the Life with Dennis R. Eames
Pursuit of The Call, part 1
Guest: Jason Mellinger
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Pursuit of The Call, part 2
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Jason and Jonie Mellinger
New Tribes Missions
907-987-8854
jason_mellinger@ntm.org
http://www.ntm.org/jason_mellinger


Dennis Eames
Marriage and Family Therapist
Alaska Center for Natural Medicine
livethelifealaska@gmail.com
452-3600


SO MUCH WORK, SO LITTLE TIME

Sometimes we are given a problem and asked to figure it out. Sometimes we are given a car, generator or entire house and told to check it out and find the problems. My years of aviation training have prepared me for this to a great extent. Rarely do we know IF there are problems or what they may be. There could be nothing, but to the trained eye, there is always something that’s not quite right. I enjoy this part of the work, until I have to give the bad news to the owner that things are not as they should be.

One such situation was discovered in our last visit to Asia, and after meeting with the owner of the house who was on furlough, we decided the best thing to do would be to rewire the entire house. To the normal person, rewiring a house would sound overwhelming, and they would never attempt it. However to me, it also sounded overwhelming, but overwhelming or not, it’s what I do. And it’s far less terrifying for me than most of the missionaries I work with. After hours of discussing what exactly would be done, we scheduled the flights, realized the week I needed the helicopter I wouldn’t be able to get it, and then rescheduled a bunch of other stuff to make it work. Due to cost, I left Jonie behind on another island, spent 18 hours flying and sitting in airports to get there, borrowed another helper on that island and flew in. Everything was OK except that I figured on 5 days to do the job and I had only 3 1/2 available before my flight would arrive to take me out again.
click here to read rest of this blog by Jason Mellinger

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Pursuit of The Call, part 1

Jason and Jonie both heard God calling them to overseas mission work as children and each began their individual path in pursuit of The Call. Today they travel together to remote areas of third world countries; using the gifts God has given each of them to equip and support jungle missionaries and locals. In some ways, their ministry assignments are similar to the life they imagined as children. In other ways it is radically different. Regardless of where the Pursuit of The Call has taken them, they have demonstrated unswerving commitment to Living the Life they were created for.

Live the Life with Dennis R. Eames
Pursuit of The Call, part 1
Guest: Jason Mellinger
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Pursuit of The Call, part 2
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Jason and Jonie Mellinger
New Tribes Missions
907-987-8854
jason_mellinger@ntm.org
www.ntm.org/jason_mellinger


Dennis Eames
Marriage and Family Therapist
Alaska Center for Natural Medicine
livethelifealaska@gmail.com
452-3600

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New Life after Trauma, Part 2

Holding Hands shadow on sand

Holding Hands shadow on sand (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Last week Terry and I talked about the impact of trauma on an individual and hope for healing. This week we continue the conversation with a look at the impact of trauma on physical health and relationships.

New Life after Trauma
Guest: Terry Kelly
Listen to the recording of part 1.
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Terry Kelly
Licensed Professional Counselor
EMDR Certified Therapist.
322-6940
newlifecounseling@gci.net


Dennis Eames
Marriage and Family Therapist
EMDR Trained Therapist
Alaska Center for Natural Medicine
livethelifealaska@gmail.com
452-3600

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New Life after Trauma

Trauma, whether by car crash, combat stress, or sexual abuse leaves a mark on the body, mind, and spirit of a person. Terry Kelly, owner of New Life counseling, defines trauma as stuck. The emotions, sensations, thoughts, and beliefs become stuck in our brain and nervous system. When we experience something similar, our bodies and minds respond with the weight of the past that we are still living in. This makes it difficult to deal effectively with the current event. Once the traumatic material is process in our brain we become free to live the life we were created for. This restored functioning feels like New Life.
New Life after Trauma
Guest: Terry Kelly
Listen to the recording of part 1.
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Terry Kelly
Licensed Professional Counselor
EMDR Certified Therapist.
322-6940
newlifecounseling@gci.net


Dennis Eames
Marriage and Family Therapist
EMDR Trained Therapist
Alaska Center for Natural Medicine
livethelifealaska@gmail.com
452-3600

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The Need is the Call

“My wife took one look at me and said, ‘We’re in trouble aren’t we.'”
-Pastor Carl Cady, on when he return from seeing the need in Indonesia.

Live the Life with Dennis R. Eames
The Need is the Call
Guest Pastor Carl Cady
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Carl Cady, US Director
International Friends of Compassion
carl@ifcus.org
www.ifcus.org

Carl Cady went to Indonesia in 2000 and witnessed the needs of the displaced thousands and wanted to get involved in assisting them. After seeing the conditions and listening to the stories of suffering Carl could not just leave and go back to the routines of life back home.

He came back to the U.S. to start a non-profit to meet these basic needs. Carl met Peter and Esther Scarborough who came to work medically with the displaced in North East Indonesia. They built a partnership based on respect and the common concern for the poor and needy.


Below is an excerpt from an blog article from International Friends of Compassion that reflects IFCUS’s current work in Indonesia.

More Hope

In June of 2003 Yulce was brought to the Grossman Burn Center in Los Angeles for treatment of her burn injuries. She received 12 surgeries in her first year and returned home in June of 2004. Her story was made into a documentary called “A Face For Yulce” which was shown here in the U.S. and all over the world. It was a great story of hope and determination. She displayed her strength and courage as she came back to the U.S. for more plastic and reconstructive surgery and additional surgeries to repair curvature of the spine. This time she stayed over three years before returning to her home in June 2009. Yulce had changed a lot in her outer appearance, spoke perfect English and enjoyed the same things an average American teen does.

The concern was her adjustment to her life back in her home village. She lived a middle-class life in L.A. and now she was going home to a much different way of life.

Click here to read the rest of Yulce’s story.

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Enhancing My Genetic Expression, part 2

English: The structure of DNA showing with det...

English: The structure of DNA showing with detail showing the structure of the four bases, adenine, cytosine, guanine and thymine, and the location of the major and minor groove. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In part 2 of Enhancing My Genetic Expression, Dr. May and I talk about the impact that focusing our minds on positive or negative things has on our genetic expression. Below is an excerpt from a blog article I wrote several months ago. It looks chemical changes in our body produced by that negative focus focus and gives several tools you can use to begin to rewire your thinking in positive directions.

Live the Life with Dennis R. Eames
Enhancing My Genetic Expression- part 2
Dr. Ashley May, ND

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Dr Ashley May, ND
Alaska Center for Natural Medicine
452-3600
http://www.drmay.me/
https://www.facebook.com/drashleymay


Excerpt from Spring Cleaning for the Mind

When you live a negative-focused life you grow the negative wiring in your brain. A negative focus stimulates the release of cortisol into your blood stream. According to neuropsychologist Rick Hansen, this increase in cortisol does two significant things:

  •  Cortisol makes the amygdula portion of the brain more sensitive over time. This means it takes less irritation to set you off.
  • Cortisol makes the hippocampus shrink. This results in less ability to calm the amygdula and slow down your reactions.

This becomes a vicious cycle. Your warning system for potential danger develops a hair trigger and the brakes to slow down the warning system get less effective. When you get in this cycle, it becomes harder to notice the positive things that happen and your mind becomes cluttered with negativity. Here are three of the ways I teach clients to reverse this process that you can use at home.

Mind Mapping

Mind Mapping (Photo credit: sirwiseowl)

Tune Your Mind to the Positive

Step 1 – Notice when good things happen. This is the toughest step. It might be a good tasting steak, a funny joke, or waking up feeling rested. It might be something bigger like getting a promotion, your child winning the science fair, or booking tickets for vacation. At first you might not be able to notice good facts in the moment. If so, start by taking a few minutes before bed to review the day and identify two or three good experiences. This can begin to tune your awareness of good events.  Gradually you will begin to notice positives more quickly.

Step 2 – Appreciate or enjoy the experience for 10 to 30 seconds. Take time to experience what you are thinking and feeling at that moment (or if you’re starting out with a daily review, what you were thinking and feeling when the experience happened). Kind of like when you take a bite of an amazing dessert or a sip of good wine -you slowly savor the tastes instead of immediately gulping it down.

Step 3 – Soak it in. Imagine you are a sponge, as you soak in all the flavor, joy, laughter, sense of accomplishment, pride, etc from that moment. Image you are adding another gold nugget to a treasure chest in your mind.

Develop Gratitude and Expectation
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Dennis Eames, MS
Marriage and Family Therapist
Alaska Center for Natural Medicine
452-3600

Previous Show with Dr. May

Enhancing My Genetic Expression- part 1
God’s Plan for Healthy Living. 

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